South Region Luncheon
Presented by Larry Stone, LMFT
This program discusses the typical dynamics of the divorcing couple in high conflict. It looks at the development of the often mutual sense of being the "victim," how the conflict affects the entire family, how well-intentioned attempts to help and support may be counter-productive, and ways that professionals can help to reduce rather than exacerbate the conflict.
Learning Objectives
At the end of this presentation you will be able to:
- Describe the cycle involved in the deepening conflict between the divorcing couple.
- Understand how the sense of being “the victim” in the relationship is often mutual.
- Identify the potentially harmful effects of well-intentioned support that ignores the cycle of mutual escalation.
Program Goals:
- To help create understanding of what has likely been going on with the high conflict couple that has created the intensity of conflict.
- To develop an appreciation for how therapists and other professionals can best help to reduce this conflict to the benefit of the entire family.
About the Presenter
Larry Stone, MFT has been licensed since 1996, and in full time private practice since 2003. He has had extensive training in Relational Gestalt Therapy, including training with Erv and Miriam Polster (2 years) and with the Gestalt Therapy Institute of Los Angeles and the Pacific Gestalt Institute (3 years each). He more recently trained with Sue Johnson in Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples, completing their externship, which has strongly informed his work with couples in conflict. In 2003, Larry trained in mediation with the Northern California Mediation Center, and also trained in Child Custody Evaluation; he has been working in both of those areas ever since. He is currently on the Court forensic lists in several counties, including Alameda, Santa Clara, San Mateo and Contra Costa, and much of his practice involves high conflict couples ordered by the Courts to do co-parenting counseling during or after a divorce. He wrote the book Divorcing Peacefully: Why It’s Essential and How To Do It.
Walk-ins are always welcome, unless we sell out, in which case we will post that. Buffet opens at 11:15, presentation begins at noon. Lunch is not guaranteed for walk-ins, but we can usually accommodate everyone.
PRE-REGISTRATION ENDS MONDAY, April 23. Registration and payments must be received by the Monday before the event to guarantee lunch. Reservations will be held until noon. "Walk-ins" are welcome at a higher rate ($33 members / $40 non-members), however lunch and seating is not guaranteed.. Register online with MasterCard, Visa, American Express, PayPal, or check (payable to SCV-CAMFT). Your check must be received by the Monday prior to the event. Mail checks to SCV-CAMFT, P.O. Box 60814, Palo Alto, CA 94306. Please allow 10 days for delivery. Continuing Education: SCV-CAMFT is approved by the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists to sponsor continuing education for LMFTs, LPCCs, LEPs, and/or LCSWs (CAMFT CE Provider #052466). SCV-CAMFT maintains responsibility for this program/course and its content. This course meets the qualifications for 1.5 hours of continuing education credit for LMFTs, LPCCs, LEPs, and/or LCSWs as required by the California Board of Behavioral Science. This presentation is suitable for all clinical levels. Certificates: To obtain your certificate, you must sign-in and sign-out at the event and complete a program evaluation. These are CAMFT requirements. You will be emailed a link to the evaluation within a week after the event. Upon completion of the evaluation, you will have access to the certificate. You must add your name and license number to make it official. This link will be active for 2 weeks after the email is sent. Audits: You can audit as a member for $10 and $15 for a non-member. Auditing does NOT include a meal or CEU credit. You can add CEUs when you register for an additional fee. For those auditing, the presentation begins at noon. Cancellations: Refunds will be issued in the same method as payment, if a request for cancellation is received by the Monday before the event. No refunds will be issued if a request for cancellation is received after the Monday before the event. To cancel, please send an email to mail@scv-camft.org or call the chapter voicemail at 408-235-0210. Refunds will be issued within ten (10) business days. Accommodations for Disability: The Santa Clara Valley Chapter of CAMFT is committed to providing a presentation that is accessible to all who wish to attend. If you have a special need and plan to attend, please notify us at mail@scv-camft.org or 408-235-0210. Requests must be made one week in advance. Chapter Board Meetings are generally held prior to the chapter’s monthly luncheons, at the same location, from 9:00 a.m. to 11:15 a.m. Members are welcome to attend by notifying a board member. Grievance Policy: Any concern or grievance can be put in writing and emailed to mail@scv-camft.org.
